Friday, September 21, 2007 :::  

Frustrations of Relationships - the real thing 

This is a rather personal entry.


Some couples just fit into each others' lives quite easily. Sure they still need to work on things to be happy, but it's just easier for them to feel SO connected, compared to others. And then, there are others (which I presume are the most of us), who have to work extra hard to finally reach a stage where we think we're ready to commit our lives together for a very long time (I'm talking about marriage for those who don't believe in divorce).


Although MY & I do click, sometimes, I feel that there are still things we need to work on. But by him being far away (and a typical guy from Mars), I find it difficult to be done!! Long story. Sometimes he's so engrossed in his own thing, he unknowingly neglects me. Or may be it's because I'm too nice to him! =P   Anyhoo, it gets so frustrating sometimes! -- [If ur a girl, u can imaging HOW frus it can become! - it's less intense for a guy, i think. Because his mind is simpler in certain ways, especially the emotions part] BTW, can someone gimme a better word for "his mind is simpler"?





I don't know the purpose of this blog entry, but yea, I get so FRUSTRATED sometimes, and I feel like I've given so much! And yet, he fails to do me small favours (or little gestures) to validate his feelings towards me OR show his appreciation for what I gave / my efforts towards our relationship. He doesn't need to measure up to every small little things I did, but I do need reassurance (example: him going outta his way for small (personal) gestures EVERY now and then)!


If u think I didn't already tell him all these, I did~~! As a matter of fact, I directly tell him (I don't hint, I tell it straight to his face, with examples!). I do that on & off (but sometimes he says I repeat them often - seeing that we have been together for some years now. =P)... He's such a stubborn old man! =P


I wish someone told me a long-term relationship wouldn't be so nerve-wrecking! But that's NEVER going to happen. *sobs*. I am trying to constantly remind myself of his need of space (to retreat or whatever), and etc. But why doesn't he remember to gimme the things I said I need and not what he thinks I need???


So much to say. This is just a small fraction of what is on my mind. And since it's late now (and I feel better now, after blogging), I think I can sleep now. ;)

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